Saturday, 11 August 2007

child abandonment

This week I have been inquiring about some of the kids and trying to learn more about their past and their stories.
Jereniah is about 3 years old he is in baby room 2. He has some physical developmental problems - he cant yet sit up on his own, he doesnt communicate at all. His story is a very sad one although unfortunately not uncommon in these parts. He was abandonded at about 6 months - thrown in a pit latrine to die - obviously he cant sit up so he just lay there for 3 days while people crapped and pissed on him. (sorry to be so crude) And then he was eventually found. It took a good week for him once he had been found to open his mouth as he had kept it sealed shut the whole time he was in the pit latrine. Jeremiah has had these developmental handicaps since birth and that is why is mother abandoned him to die. Here it is a burden for many different reasons to have a child with disabilities so most of them are thrown into pit latrines to die unfortunately only few are found alive. Jeremiahs future is very uncertain, it is unlikely that he will be adopted or fostered and he can only stay at this orphanage untill the age of 5, at which point he may just go to a mental institute or be locked up for the rest of his life.
I wrote about Asheraf last week the new boy abandoned at the bus park. We later discovered that he had been sat there waiting 2 days for his mother to return! He is doing really well and seems to have settled into life at the orphange quite well. I am quite attached to him and Nathanial the other new toddler who is also doing well. Its so hard to imagine how and why anyone could abandon these kids but I suppose...(I cant find a suitable ending to this sentence, sorry!!) Its easy for us and for me to judge these mothers, question thier motives and question their love for their kids but I guess...I hope...I would like to think that these mothers did it with the best intentions to give their children better lives then they could ever provide at least for the sake of these kids that is what I wish and hope for them. Maybe in time I will have more insight and understanding about the issues of child abandonment and be able to answer some of the questions I am asking myself. I guess one thing I do know is that there is no one simple answer. I also know that abandoning a child in a pit latrine to die is one of the most horrendous acts a mother could ever commit - and will never understand how a mother could do this to their child.

Sorry about this but this update seems to be more my thought processes than any news really!

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